Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Things that are difficult to say

Talking with T today, I discussed with him for the first time J (the obnoxious coworker) and I mentioned that every time I stop dating someone, I raise my standards a bit. He wanted to know how it was that he raised my standards. I replyed with the following:

"You will be difficult to replace. I cannot think of anything you brought to our relationship that I took issue with. subsequent men will have to meet or exceed the expectations that you set. I guess you made me pickier by setting a higher standard."

To which he replied that he has lowered his standards but he doesn't want to talk about it.

This was one of the most difficult things I have said. But it is true. And sadly,it doesn't make an ounce of difference.


NWJR said...

I had a similar conversation recently, with similar results.

Bravo to you for saying it, though. That must have been difficult.

Ginamonster said...

It was. The trouble with these conversations, is that I tend to have them at work, which means that I cannot go hide while I cry for awhile, I have to suck it up and finish my day. Which means I stuff my feelings down so deep that I cannot retrieve them. which negates any healing I might have gotten from saying these things.

I wish for you, happiness. I am very sorry to hear that you are going through a tough time. Know that you have quiet support coming from CA.