Talking with T today, I discussed with him for the first time J (the obnoxious coworker) and I mentioned that every time I stop dating someone, I raise my standards a bit. He wanted to know how it was that he raised my standards. I replyed with the following:
"You will be difficult to replace. I cannot think of anything you brought to our relationship that I took issue with. subsequent men will have to meet or exceed the expectations that you set. I guess you made me pickier by setting a higher standard."
To which he replied that he has lowered his standards but he doesn't want to talk about it.
This was one of the most difficult things I have said. But it is true. And sadly,it doesn't make an ounce of difference.