Tuesday, January 24, 2006

applause from the men's section

It occurred to me today that for men, sex is never free. You can pay for it with a prostitute, or you can find yourself a girlfriend, but either way, you're paying for it. T pointed out that even if you aren't getting any, you are still paying to update your car, wardrobe, etc. in order to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex so that perhaps you can be "the one".
I would like to pretend that I am outside of the norm when it comes to women and this situation, but truly I am not. Did I not dye my hair in order to be more attractive and then spend countless dollars trying to return it to normal? (it's over $200 in hair products and services now, and I'm still not back to normal) do I not wear makeup and have fake nails? Sure, I tell myself that I do these things for me, but truly, deep down, I really am looking for a mate. And I know that it's my looks that will attract him first. That's biology.
Has dating always been so expensive? T says that lions have manes, women need money. I think I need to examine my priorities and consider what I really want in a man and whether money is really all that important to me. I was brought up not to expect things from people. But I think that in raising the bar for myself, I have forgotten, maybe what is truly important. I don't want time with me to be a financial burden...

8 comments:

NWJR said...

I've given up on sex. Masturbation is free.

;-)

(Hey, Woody Allen said it best: "What's wrong with masturbation? It's sex with someone I love!")

Gary said...

I saw a scientific study that said that once you get to middle-class economically, any extra doesn't translate into more happiness. But being poor can really suck.

NWJR said...

Gary:

You're right. Money doesn't buy happiness, but poverty will get you a ton of misery.

Ginamonster said...

Ah, sadly I'm poor on a middle class income. Money doesn't make me happy, but paying my bills does! I just think it should be possible to get to know someone and enjoy their company without spending a lot of money. And I think I should stop worrying about whether someone meets or exceeds my income, because, well, I do. and that's wrong. it's something I have decided I should change about myself. Not because anyone said I should, but because I say I should.

Charlie Foxxtrot said...

Earning power (not necessarily current income) is a legitimate criteria to use when considering a mate in my opinion. How much a man earns says more than a little bit about his goals, work ethic, and abilities. Obviously, it's not conclusive in and of itself, but I wouldn't ignore it either.

Ginamonster said...

You mean I'm not shallow for caring about that?

Charlie Foxxtrot said...

I certainly don't think so. A man's job is (in most cases) a function of his ambition and intelligence. Do you want to live your life with a lazy dumb guy or an aspiring smart guy?

Ginamonster said...

I'll take the aspiring smart guy! (and certainly not the smart guy who is too lazy to try to make something of himself. This means you, Brother!!)