Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Oh boy.

Would you believe that yesterday, a coworker after asking how I am doing, relpied that I am NOT happy, and that I would be happy when I found Mr Right?

I was speechless, and left after she wouldn't listen to my arguments that I don't need a man to make me happy (I believe that if I can't make myself happy, neither can anyone else) because my admittance that having a man in my world would be nice supported her argument.

Later, I felt sorry for her. Because she apparently feels that she needs a man to be happy and can't understand how a woman's life really can feel complete and fulfilled without one.


NWJR said...

I used to think I'd be happy when I had Ms. Right in my life. Then I thought children would do it. Much, much too late, I found out I had to be happy with my damn self first.

lzymzy said...

You must feel sorry for the unenlightened folks who think someone else will MAKE them happy. *sigh* True happiness can only come when you are comfortable and right with your own self. Anyone else in your life is just a bonus. There is a sense of peace that comes when you know you don't NEED anyone else to have a happy life. This is one of the best parts of my relationship with my husband. We love, like, respect and desire each other, but neither one of us NEEDS the other. We are each complete unto ourselves, we just enjoy a little bonus by being together.
My Seester, My Love, you are doing the right thing for yourself. Don't ever let anyone encourage you to feel otherwise. You are a wonderful and perfect Ginamonster. And I love you.

sewitsforyou said...

an ex once told as he was breaking up with me and I was bawling and telling him how happy he made me said, "It's not my job to make you happy, you need to be happy and I should be an added bonus." He was a dick but as I have gotten older know that what he said was true. tell your co-worker to go f* herself..Just because you are in a relationship it does not equate happinness...ta ta