If you remember back a couple of months ago the LAST time I tried this whole internet dating thing, I ended up with some pretty interesting replies to the answer "no". Some men would try to convince me otherwise when I said I wasn't interested, and often, they would get angry when I stod firm.
A couple of posts ago, I worried that I was being racist by not being interested in certain men. Then I realized that a lack of attraction is not racism, and that as long as I was treating everone basically the same, I was in the clear.
There are two things, however, that will get a rejection from me right away. Religion, as I don't date guys who designate themselves as Christian/Catholic* (but I will consider a "Christian-Other" this tell me that the guy might have Christian sesibilities and an upbringing but is not nessesarily active in the faith) and age. I'm young. Not REALLY young, but young enough to know that if I'm dating a man in his 40's or 50's, that I don't want to be changing his adult diapers when I''m in my 50's. I'm also exceptionally turned off by the idea of dating a man old enough to be my father. This is a point even bigger than the whole adult diaper thing because really, if you love someone, I don't think you mind all that much. Or maybe you do. but you take care of it anyway.
My profile specifically states that I am looing for a man between the ages of 25 and 37. in my mind, 37 is stretching it, but I am trying to be open minded. a little bit.
So when Brad, 44, contacted me, my mind said no, but I checked his profile anyway. He kind of looks like my grandpa, but, ok, lets see what else. His message has no continuity and he had an overuse of elipsis. Then there was the part where he used commas instead of periods. Ok, maybe he's a little nervous. Referred to himself as B-rad. Ok...Lists golf as his only hobby and wants a woman who likes to kiss at the grocery.
I'm not a golfer, or at least if I am I'm a goofy (mini) golfer, and I am most certainly NOT comfortable with public displays of affection. I think at this point you know that although B-rad wanted to "hang around for many years anyway,,,,,,,,,,,,," I responded using a canned response of "we are not a good match, take care". Then I forgot about it.
Today, I recieved this message from B-rad,
"Gina , Sorry your not a risk taker i look at it this way your loss Good luck Hope your not 50 by the time you find what your looking for, remember life is always about chances and choices, some are lucky and some are right and wrong, wish you the best, your very pretty.......B-rad"
I think I made a good choice. I'm flattered that he thinks I am pretty, but apparently I am not adventurous and make bad choices. Am I am doomed to singledom until I am 50 because I said no.
It is tempting to write back with a snarky remark about spelling, capitalization and correct use of punctuation, but I'll just be satisfied with posting the story to my blog. Oh, and there's something about the Pot calling the Kettle black.