tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7424437.post4396176583785393310..comments2023-07-26T05:04:09.107-07:00Comments on The Rants and Raves of a Monster: I don't get itUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7424437.post-59212374683954194712009-04-28T12:33:00.000-07:002009-04-28T12:33:00.000-07:00Team DoorMat! You know we will never change. Jacki...Team DoorMat! You know we will never change. Jackie did tho some day we will have to sit down and ask her how she made the transition.VickeyMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05322351614984365192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7424437.post-42734793734157481772009-04-28T02:02:00.000-07:002009-04-28T02:02:00.000-07:00*sigh*
I understand, although I've never seen this...*sigh*<br />I understand, although I've never seen this happen to women. At least I never noticed. The "Nice guys finish last" phenomenon is widespread and well documented. It has to do with women not really wanting "Mr. Right" as much as they want to transform a "bad boy" <I>into</I> Mr. Right. If you're too nice to women you get the "you're like a brother to me" kiss of death while watching them fall for every jackass that cares more about a labidal quota than what the woman wants. Meanwhile she flails desperately in the throes of "I can change him!" while venting all of her frustrations to caring "like a brother" boys who are screaming inside with frustration. Once the boy shows no signs of change, she moves on to the next "fixer-upper," much to nice guy's consternation.<br /><br />I was always the "like a brother" guy who had more girl-friends than girlfriends and guy friends put together. I think the only thing that saved me was that by the time Heather met me I had been put through the wringer enough to need a good "fixing."<br /><br />I don't think being a bitch is going to do anything but entice a new type of guy with lower self-esteem that either likes being abused or sees <I>you</I> as the challenge to "fix." I know you and your heart, and you'll never be able to sustain being anyone other than yourself. That, my dear, is a good thing because you are the most fabulous Ginamonster I know.<br /><br />Perhaps there's a quiet guy out there that likes you for you but is too shy or intimidated to approach you....RebTurtlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00323150995310258997noreply@blogger.com